Well the tinsel is still up, but Christmas is basically done for another year. I think there will be a huge variety of how shy londoners experienced Christmas from happy with family or friends to lonely and depressed. Myself I enjoyed Christmas.
Many thanks to Nathan for spending so much of his time over Christmas hosting the shy london virtual meet ups. I understand some of you chatted on Skype. Shy London has several hosts but Nathan is definitely one of the most committed. I don’t remember seeing him be anything other than encouraging to members and he has organised many meet ups.
Occasionally I get frustrated at shy Londoners when they seem so careless and ungrateful of hosts time especially given we are non-profit. Sometimes I have let that show and sometimes I was wrong because the person had some good reasons for not being able to honour a commitment they gave to attend something. In return can I ask you to have some sort of calendar or diary for 2014 and mark down your commitments on it, to shy london, to friends or other meet ups. Google calendar is free.
I went to two great Christmas carol events this year and one I hated. The two great ones were beer and carols in a pub with a friend, and St Paul’s Cathedral on Christmas eve. The other one was at a Baptist church in Hither green. I enjoyed the company of friends and family but I hated the feeling of being preached at. The comments from the preacher on people who only come to church once a year – yup that’s me, the expectation that it was my duty to come to more services. Well no, I don’t like being preached to and will make up my own mind on how I spend my time. I really react against being told what to do – more so about being told how to think, what to believe.
Anyway remembering that feeling should help me avoid being preachy in 2014. That doesn’t mean I won’t start removing people from Shy London who are regular no shows but it will mean I will try to choose my language better.
I also want to eat better food in 2014, more Bananas, less crisps, more fish, less Pizza.
Swimming. I still can’t swim, despite hypnotherapy and a water confidence course a few years ago helping. I can’t promise Ill be able to swim by 2015 but Id like to progress.
Its likely Ill be running a lot less meet ups in 2014. Assuming me and Lizzie are successful in buying a house outside of London we think that will mean less socializing and meet ups in London. I will definitely be hosting meet ups, just less. A chance for other hosts to do their thing. DIY, I got the dummies guide to this at Christmas and without a landlord to fix things I anticipate some time painting and decorating.
If you want to set some goals, come to Barrys meetup.
Jon sent me a link to this video and I recommend everyone watches it when they have twenty minutes or so to spare. It’s about comfort zones and the fact it’s so essential to have the courage to be vulnerable and push yourself.
Keep pushing those comfort zones, don’t stay in the same place for another year !